In short, at the time of conception, you were your  true self.  Then, when interacting with the environment, you received wounding as the result of your parents’ wounds and the society’s wounds - whatever pain there was from the people around you. This caused pain in you which was not processed and released at the time, so it got locked inside and ended up creating  the hurt self,  the trauma. And as the painful emotions contained in the hurt self were not supported to safely release, a layer called  the facade  got created on top of the hurt self, trying to protect you from the pain. It includes all of your self-protective attempts to be tolerated and to function in the society by suppressing or hiding the pain in different ways. The protection mechanisms of the facade may feel safe, but actually they are not at all serving our soul in the long run. As long as you have any of the hidden pain left, it will always show up in some way  as problematic life situations, emotional pain or even physical ailments in the longterm. Without our knowing it influences our choices and keeps creating situations that keep us stuck and reflect to us the pain over and over. 

 

Unfortunately, a lot of the therapy work done all over the world is not actually healing the deeper causes of our pain but perpetuating the rejection of the hurt self by trying to “fix” things - inner or outer - whilst maintaining the socially acceptable facade. A big part of the healing work here is about  breaking through the facade and building safety around being authentic and feeling and expressing deeper emotions from the hurt self.  When you are held safe space to be authentic and vulnerable enough to dare to feel through the emotions that are in the hurt self, then those pain filled parts in us get a new experience that they are actually welcome and held and understood.  While the hurt self gets an experience of being loved, its pain can be released. 

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This is a process that will include you connecting with the felt sense of your body sensations in order to connect more closely and deeply with yourself. You will become more aware of the resources in your body pertaining to your physical sensations, which will then support the process of healing by  welcoming pleasure and discharging pain. 

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If you intend to work on any issues and/or blockages in any facet of your life experience, from a place of being  more anchored in your body as resource you can gently and consciously work through difficult sensations and emotions  that inhibit flow and cause stagnation in your experience.

This process can make you  more open, deep, curious, passionate, and connected with yourself and your emotions. It will improve your confidence in dealing with your internal and external experience with integration, awareness, and resilience. 

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